7 Things Men Should Stop Saying In Bed Especially If They Don’t Mean Them

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There are times when you click with a person and while sex is not exactly meant to be on the cards, you go ahead and end up having it anyway. It isn’t planned; you’re not exactly talking about it; but the inner carnal instinct in you just presents itself at the right time. We’ve all been there, haven’t we?

But, there’s one thing that men have a tendency to do in bed… they don’t really mean it, but they go ahead and do it anyway. It’s their innate habit to mislead by saying things they either don’t really mean, or don’t intend to follow through anyway. I mean, maybe if you stop saying some of these things, having uninhibited, no strings attached sex will actually be with no strings attached. But, you go and add tiny little strings to it which you plan to cut anyway, but, you still go and tie them anyway, just because.

One word: Don’t.

And you can start by not saying the following things.

1. I Could Get Used To This

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‘This’ being what, exactly? The sex, the position, the regularity, the face, the person, the mattress, the what? One, you’re being too vague here. Two… you’re lying through your nose while you’re looking right  into her eyes and you don’t really mean it but you just like the look on her face and maybe you’re going to get some more of this before you politely make up some inexcusable reason to end this. So, what exactly is it that you could get used to? Be specific.

2. This Changes Things Between Us, You Know

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Before you slept with her, you were out together on a date and before that, you swore that the two of you were something more than friends but never talked sex because you thought you wouldn’t. But, now you have gone beyond the talking right to the actual doing. Yes, it is going to change some dynamics but, in what way? Do you want more that just sex with her? Do you want to date her? Do you have a girlfriend she doesn’t know about? Or are you just trying to string her along? When you mention the above to her, you’re leading her on. And you’re not even sure you want to follow through. No, don’t try to counter this. Don’t.

3. We Should Give This A Name

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Well, in English, it’s called sex. Other than that, if you want to give your ‘relationship’ which majorly involves you having had sex with her on the first date, besides the fact that you may be seeing other women, a name, have you decided what you want it to be called? Because I’m pretty sure you’re not ready to have her as your girlfriend, yet. Oh, you want friends withbenefits? Didn’t know that was the name for a “meaningful” relationship these days.

4. You Say Her Name While Doing It

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And no, you say it on purpose, not in a daze or anything. You want her to feel like she’s all you’ve got on your mind. Now, in all fairness to you, for that moment, yes, she is indeed the only thing on your mind. But, once it’s over, you’re already thinking about the other woman you dated last week and how to meet her soon. The point is this: Don’t trick her into thinking she is the only one whose name you’re ever going to take like that. Especially, don’t tell her that. Or better still, just keep shut, and enjoy the performance, please.

5. Let’s Not Fall In Love

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Really? To be honest, she was probably not even thinking about the ‘L’-word till you went and dropped this bomb on her. Are you feeling it?  It’s quite natural if you are because sex does that—it releases hormones in your body that make you feel in love with the person. So, yes, for that moment, you are in love, in a physical sort of way. But, after that, you’re just leading her on, man. Don’t make someone fall for you if you don’t intend to pick them up—first rule of any relationship! I mean, that is the leader of all lead-ons that you could ever possibly use to lead a girl on. Why would you spoil something good? Why would you do that? Why?

6. If We Ever Date…

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Let’s get one thing clear. Are you going to date her? Be sure about this. If you are, by all means, go right ahead with whatever you were about to say. But, if you aren’t, then stop right there and rewind a bit to the part where we can all hope you never said that. What are you trying to achieve? Don’t give a woman false hopes just because the sex is amazing and you would like to hit her up again (pun totally intended). Honesty is always a more impressive trait for any woman. Don’t beat around the bush. The thing with doing that is you’ll get nowhere.

7. What If I Get Addicted To You?

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Simple, don’t. Yes, sex is addictive. But don’t trick her into believing you would want more. You’ve just had her once and you’re basically ruining everything. That line has a negative ring to it, dude. We get that you’re trying to be romantic and mushy and melodramatic. There’s just one problem with that: you don’t really mean it. You might want to mellow it down a bit. How about you just don’t say stuff like this? How about you keep it neutral and go with the flow and don’t build bridges that you intend to burn down once you’ve crossed them?

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And if you ever feel the urge to go ahead and say these things anyway, lead it with a disclaimer that says none of the feelings bare any true meaning, or resemblance to meanings, whatsoever. Or, better still, just shut the hell up.

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